When Thought Patterns Hold You Back

magicis1
Sep 28
3 min read

A big part of the healing journey is peeling back the layers of who we are. In this post we take a look at how our thought patterns can be behind our insecurities, anxieties, and depression. If left to spiral out of control it can be a difficult climb to higher ground.

Reframing Depression, Anxiety, and Low Self-Esteem

Are your thoughts running your life?Do you feel stuck in constant fears, “what ifs,” or relentless self-judgment? Maybe it feels like no matter what you do, it’s never enough. You find yourself caught in cycles of anxiety, insecurity, low self-esteem, or just deep emotional fatigue that feels like depression.

You’re not alone in this. And more importantly, you’re not broken. These are patterns within a frequency band, not permanent states.

The Inner Experience of Psycho-Emotional Struggle

For many people, these thought patterns manifest in ways that feel overwhelming:

Feeling emotionally numb or disconnected from others
Feeling like your emotions are “too much”: too sad, too angry, too anxious, even too happy
Feeling misunderstood or unseen, as if you’re fighting your internal battles without anyone truly getting it
Paralysis: where even basic tasks feel unmanageable
A sense of powerlessness over your own mind and the experience of life

This overload leaves the mind struggling for clarity. Over-identification can lead to dissociation, a kind of mental and emotional disconnection from your environment, as a way to cope. It’s a protective mechanism, but one that can leave you feeling even more adrift.

You Are Not Your Thoughts

One of the most important shifts begins with this truth: you are not your thoughts, and you are not your experiences. You are a human being having an experience, not becoming the experience itself.

When we hold space for that, when we create a non-judgemental energetic container for what we’re going through, it becomes easier to automatically reconnect with a deeper sense of self. One that isn’t defined by fear, appearance, performance, errant thoughts, or emotional turbulence.

The Work of Reconnection

Healing isn’t about fixing yourself, it’s about unravelling your current state as a way to return to yourself. That work can happen quickly or gradually. It may involve intentional practices and the awareness of supportive structures that can help you feel grounded and seen.

Here’s what that looks like in practice:

Positive reality-based thinking: Not sugarcoating, not fantasy, but looking for real moments of goodness. The connection and a smile from a stranger. Fueling the body with nature. The meal made with love that overrides ingredients. These moments rewire our perception of life toward infinite possibilities.
Building momentum through micro-habits: Exercise, nutritious food, meditation, limiting screen time, journaling, gratitude, done consistently, these small steps have a cumulative impact on perceptual awareness, emotional regulation, and resilience.
A space to organize the mind and body: Without structure, life feels chaotic. This work supports creating rhythm and rituals that bring clarity and emotional safety.
A safe, non-judgmental space: This is key. Connecting to the space that resides within us. Healing happens when we feel seen, supported, and accepted without having to perform or prove anything.
Reconnecting to purpose: Depression, fears, and anxiety often cloud our sense of meaning. By quieting the noise, through energy healing, we begin to rediscover the reasons we’re here and what truly matters to us.

Expand Beyond the Fear

We often let our fears, or our thoughts about who we are, set the limits of what’s possible. But there is something in you that’s bigger than your insecurity, bigger than your doubts, bigger than your inner critic.

This work doesn’t pretend life is easy. But it does hold the belief that change is possible, and that you can create a life that feels meaningful, even when your mind tries to convince you otherwise.

You don’t need to have all the answers right now. Just a reminder that you’re still here and alive. What you need is space, within and without. That’s the doorway to wholeness. And this is what matters in the end. Don’t give up on yourself.

Final Thought

If you’re feeling lost, disheartened, or emotionally stuck, know that small, consistent steps can move you toward something better. Let’s start there.